Over-Communicating: “Hihihihihi” , “What are you doing?”, “How about now?”, “And now? I just thought I would share what I’m having for lunch.”, “I sneezed and thought of you!”, Ugh … just no. Sometimes we blow past all reasonable boundaries when we’re excited about a relationship. While it may initially seem cute to him that you’re contacting him a lot, before too long he’ll start seeing you as insecure and clingy. Remember, let him have some space so he’s not chocked.
Nagging: It’s pretty much never a good time to start chiding him about things he’s “doing wrong”. You might change his behavior in the short term, but the cost you’ll pay in his resentment is large.
Emotional Outbursts: I don’t know a person alive who hasn’t at some point completely flipped their top. It happens to everyone. However, freaking out (and acting it out) is never good for your relationship. If you’re prone to this, work on displaying your feelings calmly. It never hurts.
Making Him Pay For Every Single Thing: I’m definitely a fan of courtship, but remember that it’s sure nice to treat him also. Expecting him to cover everything all the time is more than a little one-sided and mean. It can also make him feel like you’re just there for free dinner. There are other ways to reciprocate his generosity if you can’t afford to pay the check. For example, with a home-cooked meal, wash his clothes, a date that you arrange or little thoughtful surprises for him. It should feel like you’re both giving to the relationship, not like he’s paying for your company.
Acting Entitled: Don’t act like you automatically own his
weekends, access to his wallet or anything else. Be nice to everyone,
and don’t treat anyone like they owe you something.
Being Rude To Others: I realize that telling you NOT
to act like a jerk if you’re really a jerk isn’t going to create
meaningful change in the world. But for those of you who have an edge,
know that it can kill your budding romance dead.Making Him Accommodate Your High Maintenance Behavior: High maintenance behavior has a lot of different manifestations. Maybe it’s not leaving the house without looking like a fashionista or wanting that perfect, specific food item. High maintenance is a lot of things. They’re not all bad, but you simply shouldn’t require him to suffer as a result. For my sisters who look amazing all the time, go on with your bad self. This is not about dulling your shine or putting you down. It’s about… waiting time. No one wants to feel like they’re with someone who disrespects their time or that you can’t go for a spontaneous walk because you wore “This Ordinary Shoes”. So get the beauty routine figured out before he shows up to pick you up for dates, and dress for what you expect to do together…
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